I noticed that beehaw.org on average has more “normal posts” (not links) than other instances. I found communities there for the topics you are interested in like technology, politics and parenting. It’s not completely link-free, but I’d say there are fewer links than elsewhere. That’s the best I could find on the Fediverse. Maybe someone else has better suggestions.

Many instances have a chat community. Some examples: [email protected] [email protected] [email protected] [email protected] [email protected] [email protected]

I think self hosting is easier than messing around with multiple accounts on different instances

Exactly

Kinda agree, but chances are high that instances like Beehaw will be unwilling to federate with you

Ok, you’re right, I didn’t think about that. Let’s just say that federation/defederation is a tricky question.

Yes, but users should be able to manually whitelist defederated instances so they can interact with such an instance, if they want to. Lemmygrad shouldn’t be visible by default, but if you really like communist tankie shit, you should be able to manually allow it I guess.