I see this sentiment a lot but I don’t see the spam on pretty much any NSFW subreddit.

Which subreddit and user?

Pornography was a very popular draw for Reddit, but posting in general helps too.

I can’t see downvotes and a lemmy.world admin threatened banning me for my half of a sarcastic spat.

Instances definitely matter.

Someone has to be the first on the dance floor, and you don’t want to be it.