Yup. I signed up for Lemmy.ml before I realized that. I think it’d be really helpful if the instances set a cap on number of users, so theat when you went to join-Lemmy.org and saw that beehaw has 1.9k users OUT OF 2k, then it’d be more likely to sign up for a different instance.
This is the main reason I used infinity on reddit. I’ve found a good site is scrolller.com
Might be a good substitute for you.