For anyone “willing to give Meta a chance”, ask yourself:
Q: Why is Meta doing this?
A: To make money.
Q: How is Meta going to make money out of this?
A: By having as many users on their instance as they can, so they can sell their data and advertise to them (that is Meta’s modus operandi, after all).
This is already antithetical to the entire fediverse concept, where you want users to be as spread out over instances as possible.
Having most of the users on one instance means the “community cost” of defederating from that instance is enormous to the point of being inadvisable for an instance admin. This brings us to a scenario where the ‘federation’ is essentially useless, as everyone is producing/consuming content on the one instance.
Therefore, the idea of a commercial entity using the fediverse, by itself, mutilates what the fediverse is all about.
Holy strawman, Batman!
I’m not even going to address the rest of your comment if the thing you start with is claiming that I don’t want developers to get money for their work.