So… blocking an instance as a user just hides the instances communities, if I’m remembering the implementation details right. It doesn’t block interaction with the instances users. Stupidly misleading.

You’ll still need to block the users one by one.

I did not ask you to or insinuate that you should kill yourself. Complete lie.

You stated multiple times that you wanted to shoot him because he used the excuse that “it’s just a game”. That’s a thin distinction at best.

You also use a separate account for your normal posting than your admin account, which feels needlessly sneaky.

Look, taking down the post was right call, and removing him from the mod position for arguing about it too. But the rest of this?

Telling someone that you want to injure them, then going on a multiple paragraph rant that is more about dunking on someone and venting than actually trying to inform isn’t a good look for an admin.

I can’t read their full responses that you deleted, but what you quoted from them reads like the kind of scared “stop yelling at me I don’t understand what I did wrong please don’t hit me” responses I gave to my mother while she was busy giving me reasons for therapy.

Normal users can get away with this sort of aggressive behavior because they don’t have a position of power, but you do. You are inherently setting the example of what you want from your users and it’s not a good look from the outside.

Now let’s see if this criticism gets me banned too… hope not.

Not upset, just thought it needed to be said.

It seems odd to expect people to realize this is largely addressing issues in mastodon when it is posted to Lemmy and the summary uses terms that are interchangable. Most people are not going to take the time to follow the link if they have a negative reaction to the summary.

In short, the summary is very easy for people to take as some sort of attack on the places they personally spend time in on the fediverse as lacking. I don’t think most people look around on Lemmy and see evidence of what is being addressed as though it is an all encompassing problem, and so you get knee-jerk downvotes and that’s the extent of the engagement.

I think examples might serve people better in this regard. It can be hard to accept things as real that you’ve never experienced, and don’t fit with your lifetime of experiences, purely on faith alone.

Edit: I realize this is the exact opposite of “just accept other people have different experiences”, but it’s hard to deny that this is something a lot of people have trouble with in a lot of aspects of life. Expecting people to just override the natural state of viewing the world through their own personal lens is always going to be a hard ask.

People asking for examples are not always trying to find ways to tear other experiences apart. Sometimes they might need examples to help them understand better.

Then perhaps this is not the correct audience for this piece.

What is the point of posting a screenshot (that is poorly cropped to boot) of what is clearly a page you could have just linked?

Also, what exactly do you mean “top”? The instances that have defederated from the most other instances? The phrasing here is odd.

The issue is that you’re being shitty.

Instead of linking to any of the many communities with the content you brought up, you sarcastically threw shade at the guy for either not already knowing about it or finding it not enough while you do.

It’s elitism over one of the most fucking pitiful things you could ever be elitist about: familiarity with an online space.

He was bringing up a personal criticism of this space, not demanding it change to fit his needs.

Really the best choice here. Hooray for open modlogs!

They’ll be able to. Stop bellyaching. Anyone can spin up their own lemmy or mastodon instance and federate it with meta if they want, or they can just join any existing instance that federates with meta.

That’s the wonderful thing about federation: if you don’t agree with the choices made by the people running your instance, there’s plenty of other instances to choose from! Most instances will still have access to all the same content, so it’s not like telling someone to just leave an entire social media platform.

tell them why you blocked them.

Meh. Life’s too short. Probably better to just block and move on.

On the other hand, since Lemmy is made up of a much smaller userbase, I’ve had a lot of success with just blocking users. When it’s one user with 100 comments, it’s a lot easier to solve the issue with the tools available to you as a user than on Reddit where you’re more likely to have 100 different people making 1-3 comments each spouting blind rhetoric/useless exaggeration/unfunny meme responses. It’s not big enough for people to bother too much with alt accounts or brigading yet either.

I do my best to stay away from posts with topics likely to attract that sort of crowd too.

In general while it’s not as good as I hoped for, I find Lemmy/fediverse a hell of a lot better than what I left. People are going to be assholes wherever they think they can get away with it, and the best response is to starve them of attention.

The issue is that there isn’t really anything more to choosing an instance than just picking one though, and we don’t want to funnel every new user to a single instance lest this end up becoming just reddit with extra steps. Or the reccomended instance gets flooded with more traffic than it can handle.

At most, a new user may want to look at what instances have defederated from the one they want to sign up on, but that’s a concept that isn’t going to make sense to someone who is already having trouble understanding “sign up somewhere, interact with everywhere” setup.

Numerous guides to all of this have been created. Rather than tilting at windmills (you will never stop people from being rude online, best to just accept it) your effort would be better spent being the friendly guiding hand. That’s far more effective than trying to call out people who probably don’t care whether we’re attracting more users or not.

Not if it’s policed as harshly as I hear that it is on Mastodon.

I didn’t realize that you developes jerboa too! Thanks for not branding it something like “the official lemmy mobile client”

Ever hear of responsible disclosure numbnuts? Guess not.